{"id":51671,"date":"2024-09-25T20:15:14","date_gmt":"2024-09-25T18:15:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/?p=51671"},"modified":"2024-10-21T16:16:54","modified_gmt":"2024-10-21T14:16:54","slug":"how-to-reveal-your-kinky-side-to-your-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/en\/kako-partneru-iznijeti-svoju-kinky-stranu\/","title":{"rendered":"How do I reveal my kinky side to my partner?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Every day we encounter the question of how to introduce our kinky side and desires to our partner?
Many of us have a kinky side or fetish<\/a>, but few dare to talk about it with their partner. Why? Because of fear of negative reactions or judgment? Are you afraid your partner will reject you or stop loving you if you reveal your kinky side? Perhaps you're still trying to reconcile with your own desires and fetishes and aren't ready to share them due to a lack of support?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We are taught what sex should look like and what is acceptable and what is not. Kinks and fetishes are often considered perverted, so we don't feel free to express our true selves.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n

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Underlying reasons for restraint<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Lack of communication<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n


When we enter a relationship, we hope to align on important life decisions - children, marriage, career... However, we often neglect sexual compatibility, which can be key to a successful relationship. Talking about sex isn't always easy. Perhaps bad experiences from past relationships or rejection discourage you, leading you to believe your partner won't understand your needs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Communication is key! Whether you're at the beginning of a relationship or have been together for a long time, talk about sex too. .<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talk about sex before sex. Talk about sex during sex. Talk about sex after sex. And also the next day or week after. Communication is key in any relationship, especially an emotional or sexual one.
Talking about sex doesn't have to be about the sex you and your partner have. Talk about sex in general. About masturbation, your favorite part of sex, foreplay. Talk about what you thought was true about sex when you were younger and what changed after you became sexually active. Talk about your kinky desires.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is about good sex, not just sex. The point is to feel liberated, empowered, and understood when you ask for what you want from sex - without feeling ashamed.
The kinky community has turned open conversations about sex into an art form and a dialogue, rather than negotiations with yes\/no questions. Discussing kink involves talking about what will happen before it happens, defining boundaries, and ensuring everyone involved is willing and happy. And satisfied.
Allowing yourself honest and open communication with your partner can evoke a multitude of emotions. There's the excitement of connecting with something new, anticipation, curiosity, vulnerability, and opening up through conversation\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Shame is often a barrier to openly expressing sexual desires. It can be linked to religious, social, cultural influences, or even shame experienced with a previous partner and some past experiences.
How much are you willing to talk about masturbation<\/a>, Can you admit and accept that masturbation is present even with a partner? The same goes for watching pornography. Do you hide it from your partner, or are they aware of your need for it independently of your sexual relationship with each other? Unfortunately, shame can isolate you and prevent you from satisfying your needs and acknowledging them to your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before discussing your desires with a partner, first explore your own kinks. Learn through articles, blogs, podcasts, conversations with experienced people from the kink community, as well as solo play. Kinks can also be explored on your own \u2013 you can restrain yourself, deprive yourself of certain senses, pleasure<\/a>, you can impose self-control, reward or punish yourself, you can even practice sensation games on yourself. From nipple play, wax play to shibari... Whatever interests you or you'd like to try, there's no need to wait for a partner to explore your desires.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Fear can seriously affect relationships and communication. You are afraid that honesty might cause instability in the relationship. Many fear that if they reveal their true sexual desires, feelings, or needs, they will be rejected or abandoned. The fear of being left alone drives them to preserve the relationship at all costs, so they prefer to lie to maintain the relationship, avoid conflicts or uncomfortable situations, believing that the truth could lead to tension in the relationship, strong reactions, arguments, or a breakup.
It's sad that they pretend to be something they're not to feel more accepted or \u201cgood enough\u201d for their partner, but it's not fair to the partner to hide their true identity, needs, and desires.
The combination of fear of everyday discrimination and stigmatization leads to the creation of a double life that can be extremely exhausting, although denying these inclinations can also cause stress and dissatisfaction with a vanilla lifestyle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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How to then introduce your kinky side to your partner?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

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Couples grow sexually together, if you have fetish<\/a> What is crucial for your sexual pleasure, check if your partner is willing to try it or something similar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Opening up to your partner about kinks can be like sharing a secret. You make yourself vulnerable, and that takes courage. Even though you might not be sure how your partner will react, that doesn't mean you should shy away from sharing that secret. In fact, vulnerability can contribute to a stronger relationship and a more intimate sex life.
Additionally, don't assume your partner is vanilla and exclusively likes non-kinky sex. If you haven't discussed kinks before, there's no reason to conclude they don't enjoy them.
Ask your partner about his fantasies. There's a good chance he has something he wants to try, too. Participating in or fantasizing about kinky things is surprisingly common. Two separate studies on the topic of kink report that 67% of the people surveyed recognize they have preferences that are different from the norm, and an astonishing 97% have some kind of sexual fantasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you're unsure about sexual compatibility, don't worry. There are ways to share your desires.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sexual compatibility isn't innate; it's built through listening, understanding, and compromise. Talk about your desires and needs, be open and honest. If you and your partner have different ideas about what sex should look like, whether you're vanilla, a little kinky, or into hardcore BDSM, you don't have to part ways, but don't compromise beyond your boundaries and needs, nor should you expect your partner to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Svakodnevno se susre\u0107emo s pitanjem kako partneru iznijeti svoju kinky stranu i \u017eelje?Mnogi od nas imaju neku kinky stranu ili feti\u0161, ali malo tko se o tome usudi razgovarati s partnerom. Za\u0161to? Zbog straha od negativnih reakcija ili osude? Bojite se da \u0107e vas partner odbaciti ili prestati voljeti ako otkrijete svoju kinky stranu? Mo\u017eda […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":51672,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[89],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-51671","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-bdsm"],"blocksy_meta":{"styles_descriptor":{"styles":{"desktop":"","tablet":"","mobile":""},"google_fonts":[],"version":7}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51671","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=51671"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51671\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/51672"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=51671"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=51671"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sex-shop.hr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=51671"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}